Originally Posted by TruckerPete
I do believe it is possible for someone to choose to be poly, structure their relationships in a poly fashion, or identify as poly. However you'd like to put it.
But there are some for whom it is not a choice. What proof do you want? Well, me. Unless you are referring to choosing poly over cheating or serial monogamy for the rest of my life. That's about the only choice I have over how I deal with falling in love ALL THE FRICKIN' TIME.
I meant my post personally, from my perspective; I find poly was a choice I made and I am glad I made it. When I was in a mono relationship I was able to honour the mono committment I made.
I totally accept that your experience differs; if you adopted the soundbite approach I guess you'd be happier saying that for you poly was a determined identity not a chosen one.