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Old 08-26-2011, 02:04 PM
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My suggestion would be to respect that you have had some experiences in the past that have left you wounded and ask that he take it slow and go at your pace. Ask him to respect that also.

If he knows you have good intentions to work on being comfortable then he should be okay with that, or at least respect that. Realize that there is plenty of time and building a solid foundations. He will be uncomfortable sometimes as he will have to slow right down and possibly miss chances to be intimately close to others. To me THAT is maturity.

Really, this has nothing to do with his being your master. Dominant people have a responsibility to be considerate and respectful. Those that aren't are just ass holes I think.

Have a look at the "foundations" and "lessons" threads when you do a tag in the search engine. You might find some ideas on where to start out in order to have a successful relationship dynamic.
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