Originally Posted by trueRiver
In short, for those who like academic soundbites: being poly is a chosen identity, not a determined one.
Have to disagree with you, here. (And NYC's similar sentiment; can't be bothered to multiquote on iPad.)
I do believe it is possible for someone to choose to be poly, structure their relationships in a poly fashion, or identify as poly. However you'd like to put it.
But there are some for whom it is not a choice. What proof do you want? Well, me. Unless you are referring to choosing poly over cheating or serial monogamy for the rest of my life. That's about the only choice I have over how I deal with falling in love ALL THE FRICKIN' TIME.