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Old 08-25-2011, 11:43 PM
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We are all new to poly. We've been stumbling forward. The only agreements have been made between her and him. We three have never sat down to discuss boundaries and rules or schedules.
Well, that is unacceptable. At eight months, you may be new to poly, but not too new in the relationship to get together and fucking talk! And to stand up for your own wants/needs/boundaries.
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. . . I lack the tools to do so.
What do you mean by this? Are you mute and unable to speak?
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