We seem to have several people a day new to the board, start intro threads, and never state their age, gender ID, gender preference, marital status (single/partnered/married/divorced, and for how long), general area of the world/country they live.
It's so frustrating! Yes, it's nice to know you're new to poly, or confused, or experienced and happy, but it just seems an intro thread should say who you are, not that you're interested in poly. If you weren't interested in poly, you wouldn't be here.
You'll get different advice if you're 21 as opposed to 38, or if you're gay, male, transgendered, female, in a a conservative area or a liberal one, etc etc. Please give us something to go on.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37