Personally, I like guys like your husband. Once the amazingly tolerant and wonderful women finally get around to leaving, guys like me benifit as we look like the best mates possible in comparison, lol. I keep telling both Violet and Anne that they could each do far better than me, but they look back on what they had before and say "nope, like what I got now".
So thank you husband in advance on behalf of the guy you end up with next, the guy who will stand in awe of your beauty and persona. The guy who believes that when a woman who is too good for you enters your life, you should work your ass of to improve yourelf to keep her and make her happy, not try to tear her down to your level and make her feel unworthy. I assure you, that guy will be greatful to have you every day, and will sincerely want to thank your husband for how he's acting now.
Oh - welcome to the boards.