I had a 12 year secondary relationship and we didn't live together. It was a long distance relationship, but we wouldn't have lived together even if we were local to each other. We did have weekends together, so we did get to wake up with each other a few times a year.
Since these are the constraints for your relationship, you have to decide whether or not you can live with them. Is it a deal breaker that you won't live together? If not, I second Redpepper's advice. You wait and let the relationship grow as it will. I know it's not easy, but you've got to play the cards you're dealt (as they say) and not the ones you wish you had.
Hang in there,