Thanks for the welcome. As for the gay word confusion - I am a woman IDed as lesbian. Well, at least to most people, mental and in reality, not so much.
I love the term homoflexible. High school was the first time I heard someone use it and thought it was the greatest thing.
Sorry for the string of bad men. Maybe, unlike geese, all the good ones fly back during the winter months after a summer in exhile?