Originally Posted by ladyjools
just wondering if anyone has any input i seem to be a bit unlucky with any of the posts i start
One thing I've had to learn on this forum is patience. Everyone here checks the boards on thier own timetables and responds accordingly, when it fits into thier day. (Which can make a person crazy if s/he is pacing back and forth in front of her/his monitor, hitting refresh every 15 seconds and waiting for the wisdom of the ages to pop onto the screen. Don't ask me how I know this.
Also, when an OP asks a question requiring a fair amount of thought, as this one does, respondents need time to get thier thoughts together and type them out too. And keep in mind that not everyone on the forum is going to be able to respond to a question like this, since it really needs responses from polyfolk with more experience than yours (and it sounds like you have quite a bit of experience yourself).
So hang in. Wait. Breathe. Everything which must be will be.