Originally Posted by redpepper
(As an example; I still don't see how dating is poly other than being open about who you are seeing,
Are mono folk who are dating somehow not mono? I'd say they are. They may not have a committed pairing as yet, thought they're certainly pursuing one.
I'd say then that poly folk who are dating more than one person are still engaged in polyamory--they're pursuing multiple romantic relationships. They may or may not end up in committed relationships. Those committed relationships don't have to be polyfi, either, as committments don't have to include being closed to new relationships.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.