Slightly off-topic, but still related.
I must say, I am really starting to see what 'unicorns' go through, reading some of the stories here.
I admit, I didn`t pay a whole lot of notice before, as my hubby and I never really had a interest in getting ONE woman to commit to a whole lotta crap on our behalf.
I now see a reason for the secondary bill of rights. Seems many couples prefer young women, who haven`t done this before.
I think cranberrystardust offers some valid points to the OP for consideration. Regardless if she is pulling from her own experience or not, it is all worthwhile for her to mention to the OP. We all use our personal experience when giving advice.