Cheers to boundless love!! and huzzah!
I was incited a bit by your statement about your husband's preferences and your own more visceral nature. I think I have the ability for either/or but I've been critical of involving myself in "merely physical" attractions, seeking the "integrity" of more being attracted on a more intellectual and emotional level to potential lovers.
This is an odd conclusion for me to come to, as some of my most rewarding, interesting and memorable relationships started as hot and heavy carnal relations after very little in the way of deep interactions. I also firmly believe in the power of loving both physically and emotionally to awaken deeper and deeper love in both yourself and the recipient of your affections.
Often he had been often bound with fetters and chains, and the chains had been rent asunder by him, and the fetters broken in pieces: neither could any man tame him...and he asked him, What is thy name? And he answered, saying, My name is Legion: for we are many.