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Old 08-20-2011, 09:33 PM
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It sounds like you're wondering if it's okay to grieve the end of one relationship while you have others, and if it's okay to feel the elation of a crush on someone else while still grieving. Well, your feelings are your feelings, and feeling what you feel is always okay. The only times we need to watch ourselves is when we indulge in "manufactured" emotions that come out of dwelling in our thoughts and overthinking until we get upset about something.

Grief is a rollercoaster ride and you often just have to let it take you where it does.
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