Well, this is sort of embarrassing.
I broke up with Romeo last night. I think I made the right decision.
We're working out the details as far as how to disentangle our lives from one another.
I think contemplating, trying, and researching polyamory helped me figure out that this was the right decision, oddly enough. I also think writing to and reading what you lovely folks have written helped me to gain the tools to make this an amicable break up.
I'm not sure whether I'll be back here or not. I'll have to put some thought into whether polyamory is something that's for me in general. I do know that I don't want to make any sort of commitments or promises to anybody right now, so maybe I'll be sort of solo-poly. But yeah... not sure. I might not be so much poly as "Ethical Slut" material. We'll see.
Anyway, thank you all for all your help. I'm very grateful for all your input.
Vix for short.