Well that's a lot of information, and if your looking for advice it might be better to post it again in the new to poly section. A lot of the more experienced members are really good at picking long posts like this apart and will have some very good and detailed advice for you.
All I can say is, good job for standing up for yourself, knowing your boundaries and communicating them. You're a natural!
I wouldn't make any big desicions just now, while you're caught up in the excitement and newness of everything. Keep the direct lines of honest and respectful communication open with everyone. Make sure Keneth plays safe. And I think you are going to be just fine.
Shhhh!!! Be vewy vewy quiet. I'm hunting wabbits. I mean unicown wabbits.