wow! What a great story. It seems to me a very natural thing and you three seem very mature in your friendship/relationship to be able to change the dynamics of your interactions now. So very very awesome and inspiring! I wish you three the best of luck and it sounds like you are already well on your way
I think this new dynamic is very exceptional considering a death was sort of the catalyst for the change. You all three now have one more person who is that much closer to you... or it almost seems you were that close already it was just a matter of going ahead and expressing it more physically and intimately.
Often he had been often bound with fetters and chains, and the chains had been rent asunder by him, and the fetters broken in pieces: neither could any man tame him...and he asked him, What is thy name? And he answered, saying, My name is Legion: for we are many.