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Old 08-19-2011, 10:34 PM
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This sounds like a primarily sexual relationship. If you want more than that, you need to develop more of a friendship and get to know them. Either way, they don't have to set the rules. You have a say, too, and you don't have to go along with anything you don't want to. Why did you agree to something that isn't clear and causes some discomfort and confusion for you?
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