So, you and your dh live together. Stew and Jen live together? And you all get together with each other in various configurations. And now Stew is having bi curious feelings for your dh.
Stew is young and young people barely know themselves (though they often think they know *everything* ). Having one lover, working out boundaries and hopes for the future is hard enough. Add in 2 women, and now a guy he is having some sexual craving for... no wonder he's confused and insecure.
Does your h know Stew is feeling attracted to him? Would he freak out?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)