I don't know what a "V" is exactly , but reading your post reminds me of one of the biggest fears I have in poly relationships.. that someone will be left 'out in the cold'. Not necessarily me, because for some reason I don't mind being alone for a short or long while, but I worry that someone I love won't be "getting enough" and I or anyone else won't be able to provide it.
That feeling of scarcity is definitely something I've felt and wouldn't wish on anyone, because once it's locked in like a depression it's hard to get out, no matter how much attention you are getting.
It sounds like you had a good experience with your "graceful" g/f, and that you are pretty open to new relationships... best of luck to you!
Often he had been often bound with fetters and chains, and the chains had been rent asunder by him, and the fetters broken in pieces: neither could any man tame him...and he asked him, What is thy name? And he answered, saying, My name is Legion: for we are many.