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Old 08-18-2011, 06:13 PM
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Originally Posted by MamaBear View Post
You bring up a valid point, my dear, but as I said my husband and I have talked about this and it is not as though I am ignorant of my limits. Baby's develop at their own paces and my son is already teething and well on his way to crawling. He sleeps through the entire night and if he happens to wake up early, say around 7 am, my husband knows that I have been with him all day and cares enough to be the one to make him the bottle and feed him.
Well, that's cool. I am used to breastfed babies. I'm a lactation specialist and have been for over 20 years, and most moms' babies do not sleep thru the night at this age. In fact, now I work as a parttime nanny for a family with twin infants, 9 mos old, and a 4 year old. None of them sleep through the night. The mom describes their nights as a game of Whack A Mole.

My husband is a very big support system for me and we know each other well enough to know that our relationship will not falter. Also. I more than believe in my capabilities to create and hold another relationship with another person. Many people are married, with children, and still manage to hold their relationships with their other lover.
Most poly people here do not feel ready to take on outside relationships until the child is at least 2-3 years old, but maybe you'll be an exception.

I'm not looking for the perfect relationship, because I know they don't exist and if being in another relationship outside my husband doesn't work then it just doesn't work, but until that time comes, if it ever does, I will be prepared for it.
Thank you for your concern.
You're welcome.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 62)
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