Justlost: Sorry you're feeling so much pain. Communication is always a good thing, no matter what kind of relationship one is in and I'm trying to teach my husband to say what's on his mind in a way that's constructive, not hurtful.
He tends to bottle things up and act out for a few hours/days instead. Very passive-aggressive. And when he gets to finally let out what bothers him, he comes out fighting and insulting. But he's getting better slowly...and so is our relationship. Baby steps...
Considering he's had to watch his male friend with benefit and me, his wife, fall in love, I've cut him some slack...
I tried being reasonable. I didn't like it. ~Clint Eastwood~