You might try a search for "triad" "triads" in the tags. There ar quite a few threads that might help you determined a course of action for you. Again, if you are not in love with this woman I'm not sure why the instance of a triad. It seems common for couples to take on thee most difficult poly structure. I'm not sure why, but perhaps some light will be shed on why its difficult if you read a bit.
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