Originally Posted by Tinyblu
Though he got a benefit from the trip, I could tell that he did it to keep me happy (I won't shut up about this woman and I begged him to go see her).
I was referring to this, not the threesome.
I don't think it makes sense to see her and not tell him. Personally I find it dishonest. He doesn't need to know any details or anything, but letting him know you plan on seeing her in an ongoing fashion seems to be the most above board and honest route, especially if you want the same respect back from your boyfriend.
If he stops seeing her altogether - well then you have a relationship with her, and he doesn't. That's pretty common in life, I don't know what one has to do with the other unless she doesn't want to see you anymore because
you date him, and nothing you can do about that. You don't live in the same cities at all right? I guess I just don't understand why the relationships need to be anything but separate.