Oh, it just sunk in with me that you said, "I try to meet up with them for lunches." So apparently you've already been dating these 2 exes... secretly. Eep! Time for true confessions time with your wife, for sure.
Good luck, and please keep us updated.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 58, living with:
miss pixi, 37, who is dating (NRE):
my bf: Ginger, 61, married to:
Robin, 60 (mono)
and dating (NRE): Carla and David, married couple, early 40s