Thanks RP, I realised it was old but misread the date on Mono's list. I didn't realise that was old too. Although it seems by his comments he likes his mono label.
I don't think I like mine anymore. I know I came to this place a number of months ago but I seemed to get sucked back into the cultural norm of monogamy. Maybe because you Mono, are so immersed in poly culture it doesn't have the same affect on you. But I seem to find identifying as mono in a polymono relationship sets me up for a gigantic self-pity party. Polyamory brings up enough stuff for me without having to hack myself out of the "one true love" story, that pops up everywhere. I've decided to try putting it away as simply a story that I no longer choose to identify with.