Originally Posted by TruckerPete
I guess I just don't know what to do with "their" stress after they share it with me.
I a word...nothing. Let it go. It's their stress, and most people have enough of our own.
I find being about to unload on someone close to me is a catherdic way of releasing my own stress, but I don't expect them to hold onto it...just as I enjoy helping them unload their stress by venting to me. But I don't hold onto it either. I see it as acting as a conduit for it to pass from them through me...to the either or whereever, it doesn't matter. It's a way to act as a relief valve...not an overflow container...since containers eventually get full.
That's it...a listening ear, open mind, and a shoulder for crying, warm hug, a few words of encouragement, whatever they need. And their burden...let it go, and leave it in the wake.