Originally Posted by nicothoe
So I am curious about how many couples there are here - that before they even become polyamorous - knew and accepted that their partner was a sexual creature attracted to other people. Perhaps you joked about their "boyfriends" and "girlfriends". May be you asked each other whether they found a mutual friend attractive, and were never threatened by the answer.
When my husband and I first got together we had a running joke with each other about if we would rather do the person in question or the dishes. Every once in a while it still comes up.