I would love to master this one. It is difficult to separate ourselves from our loves. Their happiness is our happiness, their pain, our pain. It's almost counter intuitive, yet, when you are not attached it does provide you with certain advantages. Right now, I'm in the "always in panic" mode. This mainly because one moment everything is fine and the next, my Mono husband feels something and reacts. He can't help it and neither can I help responding to his reactions. "This too shall pass" is my constant motto.
What gets me is when I do all the "right" things and it turns on me, like being open and honest...and that gets twisted into something hurtful. The human mind and emotions are certainly providing a strange ride.