Welcome. I'm a talk-friendly person so if you ever need an ear to bounce thoughts off of feel free to send me a personal message.
My story is on here somewhere but if you click on my picture and look in my profile you will find a list of my posts and can learn a wealth about my situation.
Currently it's a V-got here by a messy route, kind of like you were describing in your life (but in our case I was the one who was screwed up) and my dear husband is seeking a girlfriend as well. We'll see what we end up with-no idea yet!
Take care and enjoy reading