I posted on your husbands blog, but wanted you to know, I read a bit of yours too.
I think you two need to pat yourselves on the back, for continuing to communicate. Yes, maybe the communication could happen in better ways, and be more fulfilling, but you are both here ! That is a GREAT STEP !
There are many people, who cant get their spouse to read info, nevermind post. The fact you both write here, is going to help you. It says a lot.
THAT gives you both a chance to say what you have to say.
You are on the right path...give yourselves some credit !