What you say about not being able to let my husband do the same is why I am hesitant to explore for myself. Looking at your website, I can relate by saying logically, I would be fine with it, but emotionally, it would be odd for me to hear him say he wants something different.
We have been talking, and he had decided I should go ahead, but he still isn't ready to be poly for his own reasons. As I think more and more, I imagine what our life would be like if we could both be poly, and I think it would be better. I just have to keep working on my discomfort with the possibility because even I don't think its quite right.
I appreciate your honesty, but may I ask what stood out so much for you to say that I should not explore? Was is just my discomfort with him possibly changing from mono to poly?