After reading vodka's thread on time sharing ... I got this overwhelming sense of sadness and jealousy....
I am very new to the poly life. I have a husband of 7 years, and have recently, within the past 4 months started a relationship with a woman .... who also was my college roommate. I have been in love with her for years .. and couldnt admit this fact to myself .. let alone anyone else. I will call her Devo
We are having a hard time not with TIME sharing, per say, but bed sharing. I would love the input of anyone ... but especially in those in V relationships ... or is married.
My husband (Fish), and Devo get along great. She is gay, and has only dated women.. my husband has no interest in looking for another woman. ( I am ok with him looking as long as she is willing to become part of our family) The hang up is when she comes to visit ... with whom do I share a bed with? My husband, who I am legally bound to... or with my girlfriend who traveled out here to come see us? It was ok this summer because my husband was on third shift and was never home at bed time. I woke up at 6:00 am in order to switch beds in time for my husband to come home. We were all ok with that. Currently ... we really cant figure out something that works... and I end up feeling all crappy because I always hurt someone.
What happens when he is on a different shift? What happens if we all want to go on an overnight adventure somewhere?
Advice? Help? I feel that I suck at this