I must admit that I was wondering as we hadn't heard from you for so long.
I too am very sorry for your loss Vodkafan and hope that you can rebuild your
life is a positive way.
I do think that this is an important case that we can all learn from, although I totally understand that it may all be too painful for VF to comment further. My big question is: why, when a polyamorous person seemingly is given what they want they still cheat or lie?
I know polyamorous people come in at all levels of morality and maybe that is all the answer ever can be but I suppose I have an underlying belief in the basic goodness of people. Maybe this has thrown me because monogamy takes the blame as an unworkable situation for many people, when in fact they may be incapable of ethical non-monogamy as well.