Welcome, Arrowhead, and I don't smell anything!
It's the weekend; maybe people are just busy. I liked your intro. I don't think I could be a swinger, either. I am all about the emotional warm fuzzies! At this point I am in love with my husband and my BF and I don't have any desire to play around with any more.
I left my religion, too, about 4 years ago. I'm in a place I never thought I'd be! I miss the fellowship of my church, and the music especially, but otherwise I am just as happy without religion as I ever was with it.
Congratulations for all the self-examination and discovery. There are lots of like-minded people here on this forum and I hope you will find yourself in good company!