Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG
Security does indeed come from inside to a great extent. But always tell your partners what you are feeling.
Everything is inside our experience and our relationships for us. (I include here our relationship not only with other humans, but also everything else in existence.) Nothing is outside, ultimately. Security sought from within the mistaken projection of an ultimate 'outside' or 'inside' is probably doomed to failure. No one "out there" can provide us with security. And no absolute interior -- "in here" -- can be found. No one is really entirely "out there". We're all in here, in some sense. That is, we're all in this pattern of relating which is our world.