Originally Posted by YGirl
"Give him children"?
What are you, a baby-vending-machine? A uterus with arms and legs?
Lol YGirl. My wife would ardently agree with you. She's quite "childfree" and my proxy so am I, but very willingly.
A person's desire to procreate can be quite strong. It almost sounds like he might have a strong desire to have kids even if he has to go to someone else - could this be why he is looking and declaring himself poly? This will quickly erode your relationship (which sounds like it's struggling with to start). Both people in a relationship have to be on the same page on the "child debate".
As far as wanting someone. I just wanted to clarify a few of my previous thoughts. I don't see myself as poly because I am perfectly happy in a mono-relationship. But with my wife seeing someone, it DOES create desire to see "what's out there" in myself. I don't know if I could be happy with someone else (certainly I don't have desire to replace her), but I like *the idea* of the option being there. I hope this makes sense.
Anyways, again, good luck.