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Old 08-05-2011, 05:10 PM
opalescent opalescent is offline
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It seems like he never had to deal with you being poly because of your medical issues. (I'm so glad you finally figured out the problem and the solution. I've had sexual dysfunction issues too; it's so hard on all involved.)

Does he treat you as an equal partner otherwise? If he does treat you well in other aspects of your life together, then perhaps he is having a fearful reaction now because he has not had to deal with the reality of you also being polyamorous. A fearful reaction can be addressed, if he is willing.

However, if he is generally controlling, possessive, chauvinistic or has poor opinions of women (sexually or otherwise), his reaction may still be about fear but be based more on his overall personality. This type of personality is very unlikely to change. In that case, NYCindie's advice is well taken.

Last edited by opalescent; 08-05-2011 at 05:11 PM. Reason: addition
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