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Originally Posted by islandgy9
. . . some of us actually enjoy sharing the company of another, a lot of time.... We enjoy interacting, simply feel good being around a kindred spirit
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Met too! But I think of part-time as someone I would only see maybe once every other week, once a month, or something like that. I would think that regularly seeing someone three times a week with contact every day would appear to most people to be a full-time serious relationship. Not saying it's weird to want more than that, but I just think it is odd to call it part-time. Especially with contact via email or text in between... and when it's a bf/gf situation, two people living on their own. Obviously, a spouse or someone you lived with would be different and it'd make sense to want more.
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Originally Posted by islandgy9
I don't know why some people have such a hard time believing or rather simply accept that some of us feel joy, closeness and great intimacy all the time when we are with someone we care about. Yes, day in and day out, every day.
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Wouldn't being in contact with her on the days you're not physically together take care of that?
I don't have a hard time believing you want to be in close proximity to feel closeness and intimacy, but I also think it's possible to feel those things with less contact if one is secure in oneself and in the relationship. I totally get your point but was just saying that it's possible to feel that connected with less contact, and that I also totally understand your gf's stance that every day is too much. I only mentioned that she might feel smothered because someone else had brought that up before I did -- but it could be that the pain she's feeling is not really about the frequency of being with you but about the fact that you're feeling unsatisfied with what she wants. Maybe the feeling that she will always disappoint you is what is draining on her.
BTW, is this a poly or a mono/poly situation?