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Old 08-04-2011, 08:14 PM
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I'm not always great at identifying what's bothering me, either. And I was raised to hide my most tumultuous feelings, too. People have often commented that nothing seems to bother me, while inside I am worrying a lot about something. I use the analogy of a duck who appears to be floating along on the water, carefree, but what we can't see is their little webbed feet paddling furiously under the surface.

I've had to train myself to still speak up, even if I don't know what's wrong or upsetting me: "I'm not sure what it is that's bothering me, but something doesn't feel right..."

But I still think it's harder for guys in lots of ways, societally speaking. Women are expected to be "emotional."
The world opens up... when you do.

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