(ETA: This was in reply to Minxxa, cross-posted with SNeacail)
Yeah, I've pretty much come to the same conclusion about Romeo (having to be buzzed to open up). Letting him just say what he needs to say and addressing it later sounds like a good idea.
Goodness, everything you just said about your hubs sounds SO similar to Romeo it's almost eery. Right down to the bit about him procrastinating and you not wanting to nag him into it things!
(If there was a non-smiling blushing face I'd have used that instead!) I need to really take that to heart. I think it stems down to pride, really.