Hubs and I have been in that position, too, where it comes out after a few drinks-- bad timing for a serious conversation!
But I've figured out that's because he has such a hard time opening up about that stuff he has to be buzzed to do it.
I'm learning now, that it's better for me to just let him say what he needs to, and then address it later when we're both sober and in a better place.
Counseling sounds great... I'm crossing everything that when hubs comes back he gets right into counseling for himself. He tends to procrastinate a lot, and I don't want to nag him because he really has to do it on his own of his own volition, not because the wife is nagging him to!