you have a great point and I have thought of this. I would hope that Dh would not fall in love that quickly. I am worried about her feeling that she could be excluded at any moment and I would hope that we are mature enough to work through this and communicate. I want her to feel that she has equal standing in this relationship. I think that we may need to discuss this and I am glad you brought it up so that we may address it. I wonder how receptive they would feel to playing the what if game?
What if she falls in love with me and not him? it could go both ways.