Okay, I am playing devil's advocate here....
Originally Posted by jrcx3
I wouldn't thing twice about him having unprotected sex with them or even telling them he loves them, because I love them so much. They are great friends and I could not imagine my life without them. I know that this is the difference in my feelings of jealousy. I know that Dh would drop this endeavor in a heartbeat if I said I couldn't handle it, he loves me with all his soul.
If Dh were to fall in love with these women, and then you told him you "couldn't handle it", would he still drop them in a heartbeat? Despite his professed love for them? As far as I am concerned, polyamory is a door you can open and step through, but not always return. If my wife told me today, "That's it, I'm done with being poly, let's go back to monogamy", can I really discard the others relationship I have? Is it really that easy? Perhaps for some people it is. I know I would be torn, and feel deeply betrayed.