Originally Posted by Jems
Being out at work or really anywhere outside our close circle of friends is a no go. More so due to my Husbands job, and position he holds.
It would be more detrimental to him.
Then given your carelessness and inconsistency in the past, you will need to be especially firm in the "nothing going on" direction. No breaks/lunches together, leaving together, arriving together, etc. If you give people even a little bit, the rumours will persist.
Or, accept all this as the price of admission and put the effort that you would have to put into being very closeted instead into ignoring folks and carrying on with life.