Originally Posted by lovinhimloviner
I guess at this point I don't eve n know what the real issues even are.
Exactly my point and why I am pushing that you guys need marriage counceling. A year ago my husband and I entered counceling as a last ditch effort to keep me from filing for divorce. For years neither of us felt like we could talk to the other person for fear they would take it wrong and get upset or we would be completely ignored. Both of us were making a LOT of assumptions about the other that could have easily been solved with a simple conversation (which we weren't capable of at the time). It wasn't until we started counceling that we learned what the real issues were. Some of what came out of those sessions shocked us both and we learned a great deal, especially how best to communicate with each other.