yes I see what you mean Ceoli.
I guess it can be a bit of both really. I was certainly in place where I was inviting people into my life at this time last year. I was making space for sure! When the space was made (very small ones) there were men to fill it, that's for sure! After they had tried out the seat for a bit, sometimes one date, I decided if they were worth making larger spaces for and eventually becoming bigger parts of my life. I guess that is how I saw it at that time, now I see it as you do... if people come into my life I will see how my life shapes around them, but really I would do that with anyone, not necessarily another partner or intimate friend.
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