It takes time. Time and patience... good for you not going behind her back. That was the first good step you took if you ask me.... leave them to it and see where they get. This is between them, not you. He knows where he stands with you and now he has to get to a place where she does too and accepts it. That is no easy thing and she will need time.
hopefully your bf is okay with it all?
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