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Old 08-02-2011, 12:40 AM
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Originally Posted by BrigidsDaughter View Post
I don't know how to not be disappointed when things don't work out.
No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. So, if you're disappointed, you can't force yourself to be un-disappointed. Let yourself feel it and it will dissipate of its own accord. Try to stuff it down and it will grow stronger. Just allowing yourself to be who and what you are, even if it's not the most pleasantest of feelings -- well, that's freedom.
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