Originally Posted by Taygus83
No im not in a v with both or sleeping with Jeff. Sorry i guess i was vague. working relation ship with both is my goal.
If our relationship goes for more than a fling- yes I'd like us all to live in a community property.
It's best to be as specific as possible here. You can use adult language. Sex is a big topic here. If you are sexually attracted to Jeff, and vice versa, and it's been simmering for years, once you actually go there, I bet there will be more than a "little" NRE. And then your h will have to deal with that, and so will you.
So, don't put the cart before the horse. Sex and NRE first, moving and and co-parenting down the road in a year or so, once you 3 (6) have made the adjustment.
If you just want to be non-sexual, yet romantic intimate partners for the long run, that's another kettle of fish.
Your husband is aware you and Jeff "love" each other? Just trying to get a handle on the intensity of desire, if any, for consummating your love.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
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