Originally Posted by NeonKaos
There is also a tendency for poly-folks to put up with more bullshit because they think it makes them more tolerant or open minded or whatsa.
I figure that sort of thing arises more from codependency issues than trying to prove tolerance or somesuch.
As in, "I'm afraid this relationship will end, despite the fact that I knew that was a distinct possibility from the outset." One has to be prepared for any relationship to end prior to entering it, I think, to be prepared for it in the first place.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.